of those things that aren't really me anymore,
or never really were.
often the question is, how much to reveal?
in a song
in an interview
in conversation
in a journal entry
in a photo, a video ...
a worthy ponder.
i think so long as the revelation, however large or small,
doesn't adversely affect another's life.
and most importantly when that other is family.
what and where are the boundaries?
always on ongoing evaluation.
more so than ever now
with one who will one day be big but is still tiny today and in my care ...
angus
Our best advice is to follow your gut, if you will. Your heart and head are good for many things; this is probably best left to your instincts.
ReplyDeleteAt this point, you can share much about Asa because as wonderful as everything he does seems to be, every baby does those things (though he does seem to do them much more charmingly than most!). And please don't stop, thinking that you're boring us. Some of us are living vicariously, and love every minute of it!
An essayist we read had the same dilemma with her son. Basically once he was old enough to understand, she'd ask him which stories about him she could tell. We heard a lot less about him, but everybody was happy!
wise words.
ReplyDeleteasa squeaks and grunts in the background as he rolls around the floor, happy to be increasingly mobile and seeing more.
i'm sure that time will be here before we know it.
As long as you're aware (which you are, of course) that children are just small people who need to be respected, and will one day be big people, all will be fine.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Rich and Susan... follow your instincts because they are the best guide. Our culture so often teaches young mothers and fathers to ignore their instincts concerning their young children. So be a rebel... follow them, lol!
Thanks, Em...we agree with the rebellious idea too! I think our culture teaches us to ignore our instincts about most everything, and yet they are the only things I really trust.
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